HAP-PY NEW YEAR!!! Congratulations, you’ve made it another turn around the sun. Don’t think tis’ such novel commentary? I have two family members and several friends actively dealing with cancer. Waking up to another day is a glorious thing for many people. Simple fact…Your life is pretty damn good if you woke up and are healthy. Quit your moaning about how horrible your life is if you woke up this morning. There are people who didn’t see the sun rise.
Leave it to me to tell it like it really is.
With each turn of the calendar, and with equal decorous regularity, we set resolutions for the new year. Why? Excellent question. I was at first going to say I was too lazy to look up the answer and tell you why, but my curiosity always gets the better of me. So, with minimal effort, I read a few articles/blog posts, and found this from Mental Floss. It basically started with the ancient Babylonians, and went downhill from there. It’s an interesting read about the history of making resolutions, and in the end, only about 8% of us follow through. Charming.
Are you, or have you been, one of the 8%? Damn skippy on my part.
Now that 2018 has arrived and is in full swing, what resolutions will you make? Want an uptick here? We’re 6 years past when the world was supposed to end in 2012 because the Mayans hadn’t given us a calendar past that date, and 18 years past the whole Y2K end of the world debacle – life is great!
As with everything, of course New Year’s resolutions have trends. If I follow simple social media (ahhh, it is so painfully simplistic in so many ways), the trend seems to be finding that one word that will set the course of the actual change you will make. So here’s the book. One Word that will change your life by Jon Gordon, Dan Britton, and Jimmy Page. I simply give you an Amazon link so you can learn more about the concept. Go to your local bookstore and buy it. It’ll keep those amazing local small shops in business.
In short, the idea states: pick a singular guiding word and allow this to be the focal point the entire year. Enjoy the simplicity and focus of that singular word, giving it the power to declutter other ideas. If you can concentrate on that singular word, it will impact the six dimensions of your life – mental, physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, and financial.
Boom. It’s only 1 1/2 hours of your life if you’re an Audible fan. 112 pages if you’re a hold the book and read fan. Either way, easy peasy, lemon squeezy.
Have I read it? Nope. I rather prefer books like Vanity Fair Diaries by Tina Brown – indulgent pleasures, just like those of you who watch Desperate Housewives of whatever gawd-foresaken city. Self help isn’t always my thing, but I have The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning on my reading list… it’s such an oxymoronic title, I couldn’t pass it up. Gentle art of death cleaning… bahahahahahaha! It’s totally worth my time. I just like that it equated cleaning with death, because that’s exactly how I feel about cleaning. I’d rather die some days. Anyways, fact is, I’ve actually learned some decent discipline in the past year, and I’m able to figure some things out, sans the $15 for the book. Maybe you need the plan, and I applaud your self-awareness. No, really, I do.
You may ask, what is my one word?
Maybe the reason we fail to hold our resolutions is that we pick too many, and as we should well know, sometimes, the more is not the merrier. With resolutions, perhaps less is more. If we can take a singular word into those six dimensions – mental, physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, and financial, as the book suggests – we will actually accomplish change.
In simplistic terms, I can break down a few principles of this word Learn:
- I’ve wanted to learn a new language for a while. My husband and I have actually looked at property in Italy, and my Christmas gifts was an edible tour in Italy (there needs to be squealing noises inserted here… this is a bucket list item), so before I depart in July, I will at least be able to have basic conversation – aka, where is the toilet – under my belt.
- I’m setting out on a 365 days of baking exploration in order to “learn” what are the best recipes I want to use in my bakery. It’s taken me 45 years to learn this is my path based on my passion, and I’ve got a lot to learn beyond recipes in order to do this right. I’m either in whole hog or not at all.
But if I look deeper, then learn means more if I apply it to those six dimensions:
- mental: learn how to help guide others toward more self-confidence. A friend said to me the other day, “Dude I kinda don’t think you ever do embarrassed. I need to get your spirit.” This comes from one of the more beautiful spirits I know… I told her everyone just needs to own their shit… I don’t care what you look like, how you dress, what profession you have, or what books you read (admit it ladies, occasional smut is so worth it)… walk in a room and own who you are in that moment.
- physical: learn how to eat better to get more from my workouts, learn literal balance through certain practices, learn to take my workouts as serious as I need to take them in order to move to the next belt level
- emotional: learn to absorb less of other’s stress…ask me in 365 days how I’m doin’ on this one.
- relational: learn more patience…see above.
- spiritual: maybe learn I’m not a bloody heathen who’s damned to Hell, as my holier than thou sister purports
- financial: Jesus. Joseph. And Mary…Learn not to spend so much and be happy with what I have
Remember here, I haven’t read the book, so I’m putting these in MY terms… frankly, my life, my terms 😉 I don’t actually know if I’m on the right path based on their principles, but this is the path I’m headed down this year.
What will your guiding word be? Let me know in the comments, and I look forward to traveling another go around the sun with you!